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How can we stop the violence against children? 3.5 Million children were abused in 1 years time. No child or human should ever be abused in any way.
The Issue of Child Abuse
Every year more than 3 million reports of child abuse are made in the United States. It’s a terrible epidemic that we at Childhelp are dedicated to put an end to. To do this, we need to first increase awareness of the issue itself.
What is child abuse? Child abuse is when a parent or caregiver, whether through action or failing to act, causes injury, death, emotional harm or risk of serious harm to a child. There are many forms of child maltreatment, including neglect, physical abuse, sexual abuse, exploitation and emotional abuse.
Read through the sections below on the different types of child abuse to learn the signs. If you see these signs in anyone you know, or are a victim of child abuse, get help right away.
Physical neglect and inadequate supervision
When a parent or caregiver harms a child’s mental and social development, or causes severe emotional harm, it is considered emotional abuse
Sexual abuse occurs when an adult uses a child for sexual purposes or involves a child in sexual acts.
The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is dedicated to the prevention of child abuse. Serving the U.S. and Canada, the hotline is staffed 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with professional crisis counselors who—through interpreters—provide assistance in over 170 languages. The hotline offers crisis intervention, information, and referrals to thousands of emergency, social service, and support resources. All calls are confidential.
CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
Bottom line, we are here to answer the call.
CALL 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a hotline counselor. The Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline is open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. The hotline counselors work with translators who speak more than 200 languages to help callers who speak a language other than English. All calls are anonymous. (The hotline counselors don’t know who you are and you don’t have to tell them.)
What You Should Know
No one has the right to abuse you.
You don’t deserve to be abused.
If you are being abused, you are a victim.
It’s not your fault that you are being treated this way.
It is wrong that you are suffering this pain, fear or sadness.
You are not alone. Other kids suffer abuse, too.
Sometimes abusers scare or threaten kids so they won’t tell.
There are people who care about you and want to help you.
If you are being abused, please tell a safe person – that’s someone you can trust like a teacher, counselor, school nurse, neighbor or parent. You can also talk to a Childhelp hotline counselor.
How to protect yourself from abuse.
Do not be alone with anyone who hurts you.
Listen to the little voice or gut feeling inside you when it says what is being done to you isn’t right.
Find an adult you trust and tell them what is happening. If they don’t believe you, keep telling other adults until someone does believe you!
The adult you speak to (perhaps a teacher or a neighbor) may want to tell the police or Child Protective Services about the person who is hurting you. If they don’t know the telephone number to call to make the report, they should call 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) and press 1 to speak with a hotline crisis counselor. The crisis counselor will give them the best number to call in your community.
If you are too nervous or scared to tell someone you know about the abuse, but want it reported to the people who look into child abuse, call 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453), then press 1. A Childhelp hotline counselor can make a three-way call so that you, the hotline counselor, and the person taking the report in your area are all on the telephone at the same time.
Before you call to make the report, the hotline counselor can tell you what may happen after a report of abuse is made.
A lot of people don’t realize it, but every day in the United States thousands of kids are abused. That adds up to millions of kids each year. More than 3.3 million in fact.
Often children and teens are abused by the people who are closest to them like family, friends, sitters, neighbors and sometimes even teachers and coaches. These are the very people that children should feel the safest with.
You are not alone. If you need help or have questions about child abuse, call the Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline at 1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) then push 1 to talk to a counselor. The hotline counselors are available 365 days a year to help kids, and adults who are worried about kids they suspect are being abused. You can call this number if you live in the United States, Canada, Puerto Rico, Guam or the U.S. Virgin Islands.
There WILL NOT be a charge for the call on your telephone bill if you use a regular phone or a pay phone. If you use a mobile phone or cell phone, there may be a charge and it may show up on the telephone bill. (Don’t use a mobile or cell phone if you want to be sure your call is a secret.) Do not make prank calls to the hotline. This will tie up the phones and keep us from talking to someone who really needs help right away.
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For over three decades, Child Lures Prevention has analyzed data on the methods child molesters use for luring children and teens into abuse and worse. Our original research, based on hundreds of interviews with convicted sex offenders and in-depth case studies, reveals 16 specific “Child Lures” — including Affection, Authority, Bribery and Games — which constitute the foundation of the Think First & Stay Safe and Teen Lures TV Newscastschool curricula.
Child molesters come from all economic backgrounds, geographic areas and include every ethnicity, race and creed. The sole characteristic all child molesters share is having thoughts about being sexual with children, and acting on those thoughts. These individuals actively seek access to children and the opportunity to be alone with them. Also, contrary to common “Stranger Danger” warnings, child molesters are rarely strangers; at least 90% of sexually abused children are exploited by someone in the child’s immediate or extended family, or by someone close to the family.
Who can be a child molester?
All genders (88% are male; 9% are female; 3% are unknown)*
All ages (including kids, teens and seniors)
All socioeconomic groups (wealthy, middle class & disadvantaged)
All races & ethnicity
What percentage of child sexual abuse is committed by family members?
Family members abuse:
49% of victims under age 6.
42% of victims ages 7-11.
24% of victims ages 12 – 17.
The younger the child, the more likely their abuser is a family member. Keep in mind that family members include parents, guardians, step-parents, siblings, step-siblings, cousins, uncles, aunts and grandparents.
Do kids and teens ever sexually abuse other children?
Yes. Based on substantiated state-by-state reports, at least 1/3rd of all childhood sexual abuse is peer-to-peer. Juveniles who commit sexual offenses are usually an older, stronger youngster. The average onset of child sexual assault behavior is 12-14 years old.
A U.S. Department of Justice, Bureau of Justice Statistics report* found that 23% of all sex offenders were under the age of 18. There are two very important distinctions to make about juveniles with sexual offending behaviors:
Of children who are sexually abused, the majority DO NOT go on to become sexual offenders.
The subset of juveniles who do sexually offend other children often have histories of being victimized themselves.
Do females ever molest children?
Yes. Female offenders make up approximately 9% of all reported child sexual abuse. The most recent statistical report by the US Department of Justice found that female offenders victimized:
12% of victims under the age of 6
6% of victims ages 6 – 12
3% of victims ages 12 – 17
What is the most common lure used by child molesters?
The Affection Lure is used both offline and online to exploit unsuspecting youngsters in need of love and attention. (See Think First & Stay Safe™Parent Guide.) Most victims of abuse are befriended and “groomed” over a period of hours, days, weeks, months, or years. Child molesters have repeatedly admitted: When there’s a physically or emotionally absent parent in the picture, it makes the child more vulnerable to grooming and abuse.
How many sex offenders, including child molesters, live in the U.S.?
Currently, there are 904,011 registered sex offenders living in the United States, according to registry data from 50 states and 6 U.S. territories (May, 2018), which has increased from 847,725 in Nov, 2017*. These are offenders who have been caught, convicted, served their time and are now living among us. This number does not include child molesters who are currently serving time in prison. Also, the FBI estimates that only 10-40% of sex crimes are ever reported, which means there are millions of sex offenders living in the United States, many of whom have never been reported – or caught, or convicted.
*Source: Map of Registered Sex Offenders living in the United States and its territories, Prepared by the Records and Access Unit, May 30, 2018, National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.
How do child molesters gain access to their victims?
While some sexual abuse is purely opportunistic, most children are groomed and lured into situations where they are vulnerable to abuse. Common grooming strategies include:
Befriending parents, particularly single parents, to gain access to their children.
Offering babysitting services to busy parents or guardians.
Taking jobs and participating in community events that involve children.
Becoming a guardian or foster parent.
Attending sporting events for children.
Offering to coach children’s sports.
Volunteering in youth organizations.
Offering to chaperone overnight trips.
Loitering in places children frequent – playgrounds, parks, malls, game arcades, sports fields, etc.
Befriending youngsters on social media (Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, etc.) and online gaming platforms.
How do sex offenders lure kids online?
Internet predators use the same Lures online that are used offline. They typically target uninformed and unsuspecting youngsters to engage in virtual relationships by luring them with flattery, attention and feelings of being close to an online friend. In essence, the Affection Lure, Friendship Lure and Ego Lure are being used online. Lonely, neglected, confused and risk-taking adolescents are most vulnerable. The risk increases if they share intimate images of themselves or have inappropriate conversations.
The internet predator becomes a more serious threat when they obtain a youngster’s personal information (i.e. full name, phone number, address, school, sports team), convinces them to send inappropriate images, or manages to arrange a private, in-person meeting. Youth who have shared too much personal information or agreed to in-person meetings without adult supervision have been robbed, assaulted and sexually abused. Cyber predators who convince youngsters to share intimate pictures or video often use blackmail to get more images. This is known as sextortion, which is increasingly being uncovered by law enforcement.
Children and teens are still more likely to be sexually exploited (in person or virtually) by someone they know, including a peer, than by an Internet Predator. This is why it’s important to remind kids to limit how much personal information they share with everyone, to keep passwords PRIVATE (even from friends) and to never send inappropriate images to anyone.
How else do child molesters use the Internet?
Since the dawn of the Internet, child molesters around the globe have used it to share beliefs and experiences, even descriptions, names and images of children they have abused. Now, the Dark Web is where they “socialize,” as well as share and sell child pornography, easily produced with cell phone cameras and sometimes even shown in real time.
It is essential for parents to teach children and teens that they must not ask for, nor provide, nude or semi-nude photos. Ever. Many sexted images children and teens have been pressured into sending (or send “to be funny”) end up in the child porn collections of American and International sexual predators. Despite law enforcement’s best efforts, it is next to impossible to get child pornography images out of circulation on the web.
How do child molesters target their victims?
Early grooming efforts by sexual predators seek to determine if the child has a stable home life, or if the family is facing challenges like poverty, divorce, illness, drugs, homelessness, etc. Children lacking stability at home are at higher risk for sexual abuse, as there is usually more access to the child and opportunities to abuse the child.
Child molesters will also target kids who are loners, or who look troubled or neglected. Youngsters who smoke, vape or use drugs and alcohol are seen as risk-seekers lacking adequate supervision, and therefore easy targets. Single moms are often targeted, as they are more likely to be overwhelmed by parenting duties and vulnerable to offers to babysit and/or drive kids to school, practices, lessons and other activities.
Which age group is most often targeted by child molesters?
While all children are vulnerable, approximately 20% of child sexual abuse occurs with children under 5 years of age; 50% with kids between 5-12 years old; and 30% occurs with teens between 13-17 years of age. Parents and guardians can help keep their children safe by talking frankly and often to their children about “the birds and the bees.” At the very least, teach your child, preferably beginning at birth, anatomically-correct names for their private body parts (buttocks, anus, chest, breasts, vulva, vagina, penis and scrotum). Child molesters have admitted they are less likely to abuse children who have a basic understanding of sex education, including knowledge of the proper names for private body parts.
Some child molesters cite a preference for children on the brink of puberty. This is the age of sexual awakening, making it easy for molesters to prey on the sexual ignorance and curiosity of youngsters. To quote one sex offender, “Give me a kid who knows nothing about sex, and you’ve given me my next victim.”
When and where do most sexual assaults usually happen?
With incidents involving juvenile offenders, 1 in 7 sexual assaults occurs on schooldays between 3pm-7pm, with a peak from 3-4pm, right after school. This speaks to the importance of safe after-school care and close supervision of multi-age groups of youngsters.
Most child sexual abuse occurs in the home of the victim, the home of the offender, or another residence.** 81% of all child sexual abuse occurs in one-on-one situations: one-offender/one-child. Wherever youth are physically or virtually alone with someone is a potential place where they can be subjected to sexual misconduct or abuse.
Wouldn’t a vigilant parent be able to detect a child molester, just by their actions?
Not necessarily. Most child molesters are expert at getting children and families to trust them. Many target their victims and attempt to involve themselves in the child’s life, including their family, school, house of worship, sports, and hobbies. They are often the first to offer to babysit or drive your child to activities. Child molesters will smile at you, look you right in the eye and make you believe they are trustworthy.
Why is it that most victims do NOT tell someone about their abuse, or attempted abuse?
There are many reasons why 9 in 10 children do not tell about being sexually abused. Because the abuser is often a family member, the child may be dependent on their abuser for basics like food and shelter. They may still love the abuser and not want to get them in trouble, or they may fear breaking up the family. They may have been threatened not to tell, so they are afraid.
Many survivors of sexual abuse feel embarrassment, shame and a sense of guilt over what happened. They may mistakenly believe they are somehow responsible, that they did something to make the abuse happen. Other kids, especially boys, are afraid parents will over-react or restrict their freedom, so they keep quiet. However, child sexual abuse is NEVER a child’s fault. Think First & Stay Safe and Teen Lures TV Newscast curricula teach children and teens that All Secrets Can Be Told. Program evaluations document that children are more willing to tell about grooming behaviors, attempted abuse and sexual abuse after learning either or both curricula in school.
How then, do we protect our children?
Starting at birth, teach children the medical terms for private body parts. (Chest, breasts, buttocks or butt, vulva, vagina, penis and testicles.) Teach children that private parts are just that – private. Assure children of their own rights, that they are the boss of their own body, and they get to choose whether or not anyone can hug, kiss or touch them. Respect children’s privacy and personal space, and teach them to respect the privacy and personal space of others.
Children need to learn that no one has the right to touch, look at or photograph the private parts of their body, nor ask them to look at or touch the private parts of another. Anyone who tries is breaking the law. Tell your children that all secrets can be told, especially secrets they have been told to keep or have been keeping for a long time. Help your child choose two trusted adults, one at home and one at school, to whom they can tell anything.
If a person or situation gives you or your child a funny feeling in the belly, act upon those feelings. Don’t allow your child to be alone with such persons or go alone into such situations. Gut feelings are rarely wrong.
The VIP (Very Important Person) Factor
While there are many reasons victims don’t tell, the “VIP Factor” is a significant reason why sexual crimes against children have continued for generations. These “Very Important Persons” (VIPs) are well-known local leaders in our schools, athletic and civic organizations, houses of worship, healthcare and business communities. Some are VIPs on the state or national level, in the educational, legal, military, corporate, media, higher education and political worlds. They have power and money, and they have imposed a culture of silence that few dare attempt to confront.
For example, at Penn State University, Assistant Coach Jerry Sandusky (who ran a non-profit organization for disadvantaged youth) used nine of the 16 Child Lures to entrap and sexually exploit his many young victims: 1. Affection, 2. Assistance, 3. Authority, 4. Bribery, 5. Games, 6. Hero, 7. Job, 8. Threats & Weapons and 9. Drugs.
Four of the victims were assaulted during sleepovers with Sandusky, a common tactic of sex offenders. As in many cases of child sexual abuse, the children were threatened not to disclose and were told, “No one will believe you.” As is usually the case, the child victims believed their offender.
Other VIPs within Penn State University were aware of inappropriate behaviors by Sandusky, but did nothing to stop, report or prevent his crimes against vulnerable children.
May all victims and survivors of sexual abuse/assault find the safety and justice they need so healing can begin.
Child molesters are family members, relatives, neighbors, coaches, teachers, preachers, friends and our children’s peers. Knowing this – and knowing that adults cannot be with children every moment of every day – it is essential to talk openly with children about personal boundaries and personal safety. Teach children, age-appropriately, how to recognize and evade the lures used for generations by sexual predators of every kind.
Thankfully, both children and adults are beginning to more readily report sexual abuse and harassment, saying boldly and loudly that these crimes are no longer acceptable. This long-overdue cultural shift to intolerance of sexual assault and harassment will hopefully shift attention to the dire need to prevent child sexual abuse through awareness and education.
By teaching positive health-promoting norms, attitudes, values, beliefs and behaviors, beginning in Pre-Kindergarten and continuing through high school and beyond, a culture of kindness, mutual respect and personal safety can be cultivated and maintained.